Moving forward

[Appleblossom]

Can you preface speaking about possible solutions with the admission of shame or fear?

Is it in managing kids ... or am I misunderstanding you @Former-Member

isnt life bl*** & messy & sweaty and stinky ...

[Former-Member]

It's to do with my primary diagnosis, to which nobody on this forum except for one person in one post did over a year ago before I joined. 

[Faith-and-Hope]

Put the shoe on the other foot ... how would you advise someone else in the same boat ?  There's the seat of self-compassion ....

❤️@Teej ...

[Former-Member]

I'm not feeling sorry for myself over it just very isolated and scared. I asked my phams worker this week to help with it but she is doing the 'stay clear' because of my diagnosis too. She was in the best seat to help. 

I tried to write a post asking for help but couldn't post it and became overwhelmed. 

[Faith-and-Hope]

Breathe @Former-Member ....

At least you are trying to work out how to approach it .... 

It might take stages.  Be patient with it .... 

❤️

[Former-Member]

hugs @Former-Member
you never know who could be feeling he same as you, when it comes to sharing/not sharing. you don't have to do anything though. I have similar fears, though not so much about dx (ha most of it is public now anyway). im sorry the phams worker wasnt able to help. my support worker often says i need to discuss this or that with my clinical team (psychiatrist/psychologist) i guess because they don't feel they know how to help. am here with you no matter what anyway, no judgement. Am interested, the other post from over a year ago, did they get supportive replies? (remembering forums were a bit quieter back then)
hugs

[utopia]

@Former-Member. That's dissapointing that the only person you could ask wouldn't help you. Is it dangerous? Could it cause you more harm?

[Appleblossom]

was it about your elephant?

I had a big personal turn around  .. I thought I was independent but then realised I was more compliant.  If really independent I would not crave and desire affection and company so much .. I'd be .. ticked that one of the list ..  what do I want now .. and then get that goal too .. and much more happy with my situation .

[Former-Member]

No @Former-Member they just stated they had it and then never came back on the forum and there wasn't any relevant responses. It's ok. I'm just very stuck. My therapist promised to help with it but she is too busy. It is because they don't know if they will make it worse but it takes me as a person out and then I feel like I can't be trusted and it creates a heap of issues for me. Thank you for your support. I'll think on it a bit more. 

[Appleblossom]

I was just looking at Millon's different types... I identify with masochist/selfess subtype .. but maybe it was just "good programming" by mother... they note that gender issues are relevant.

there are also many positive traits listed ... 

If anyone treats another person as just a "disorder" then that would interfere terribly with good interaction .. I still havent had a proper dx .. maybe that has been a good thing .. maybe in March ??

I had to get exhusband totally out of my head before i could even want to choose clothes for myself.

Took son to new extended and improved local shopping centre today. I waited in library while he went clothes shopping .. the first time .. he actually took control of it for himself .. I was pleased ... not allowed to look in the bags .. said i will see it when I see it .. but til now . it has been just get clothes that fit me mum & he didnt want to know about it.