12-07-2016 05:33 PM
12-07-2016 05:33 PM
Hello everyone
I was talking to my mum about this , and she said that I have been like that all my life
doing something for someone else all the time and forget myself
I thought about it and it is sooooo true , even if I do something for me -- it is really for someone else
so how do I change !!!!
13-07-2016 09:37 PM
13-07-2016 09:37 PM
@Shaz51 wrote:Hello everyone
I was talking to my mum about this , and she said that I have been like that all my life
doing something for someone else all the time and forget myself
I thought about it and it is sooooo true , even if I do something for me -- it is really for someone else
so how do I change !!!!
Hi @Shaz51
Maybe you can start by thinking about things that you like, then going to the library and finding some books that interest you about those things.
It might be something like crosswords, or a jigsaw puzzle, in which case you can pick up a crossword book from the newsagent (they don't cost very much) or a jigsaw puzzle from a discount store and give it a go.
Local community centres or libraries often have classes advertised on their notice boards. You could try that too.
See how you go ...
🌷
14-07-2016 09:46 AM
14-07-2016 09:46 AM
DEar @Faith-and-Hope
You are so clever in self care. When my son first got ill many years ago with brain tumour....it took me until about 5 years to understand what self care is. And I was in Psychotherapy for all that time too.
I so didnt think that my self was important enough.
When @Shaz51 writes this about what her Mum says, well.....can I relate to this.
As I reach into the road of self care, I always have a Take 5 or a That's Life magazine nearby....Its a little like meditation for me.
Better than Television
14-07-2016 01:13 PM
14-07-2016 01:13 PM
Hello @Faith-and-Hope and @PeppiPatty xx
I haven`t done a jigsaw puzzle for years , mum has about a 100 jigsaw puzzles at her place , i used to do them all the time
I also liked certain crosswords -- will have to buy a book of them
and also go back buying my magazine that I like -- used to get them at the discount shop but they don`t keep them now
Thanks @Faith-and-Hope, I am remembering what I was interested in -- Like Genealogy, and I used to go to the Library and get lots of books to read
You know it is sad that when things change you can lose what you once enjoyed
14-07-2016 01:18 PM - edited 14-07-2016 01:22 PM
14-07-2016 01:18 PM - edited 14-07-2016 01:22 PM
Thank you @PeppiPatty 😊💕
Love what you wrote .... and glad you have worked out that you're soooo worth it ❣
You are a wonderful support to everyone here, and I love your art, and I love your humour ❣
🌸🌷🌸
Go get back what you like @Shaz51, and new appreciation will grow ....
Many libraries have magazines for loan too you know ....
💗💕
14-07-2016 01:35 PM
14-07-2016 01:35 PM
my special friend , You are a wonderful support to everyone here and to me for the past year , thankyou
you are AWESOME
16-08-2016 10:29 AM
16-08-2016 10:29 AM
16-08-2016 01:50 PM
16-08-2016 01:50 PM
That is sounding wonderful @quietscreams .... 😊
Good for you ❣
I find I need a multitude of things too ..... it's too easy to get swallowed up in the problems otherwise .... and we have to be able to recharge our own batteries .... so important.
I am very happy you are finding the right sort of balance for you ....
🌷 F&H
16-08-2016 03:47 PM
16-08-2016 03:47 PM
Hello @quietscreams
I am very happy you are finding the right sort of balance for you ...
.I find it very hard to find the right balance at the moment , I start off ok but then something always happens
and I have to start again
16-08-2016 04:31 PM
16-08-2016 04:31 PM
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