Hi @SunshineWalker ,

I was so feeling for you in your situation. I can see how hard you have worked to look after yourself and improve your mental health. You've done amazing things. I am being bullied by a nasty individual, who constantly seeks to bring me down, telling other colleagues I'm stupid incompetent, should lose my job. His next rant was the next time I stuff up he's off to management to help me lose my job, which I am very find of. In just one day he'd had me breaking down in tears. Another colleague was kind enough to warn me he's determined to get me out of a job. One I am desperate to keep. The bully has no faith in me. Now I'm losing self esteem. My defence mechanism last night was do my hair nicely great makeup and wearing my favourite perfume to give me the courage to face him twice in twelve hours. I faced him with a detached brusque but not rude manner. Said as little as possible and failed to even greet him as I approached the office. I happily greet other colleagues. I was determined he would not bring me down though he is constantly fault finding. I barely acknowledged him this morning. It was the best thing I could do for myself. He constantly expects to find he's inherited some problem I failed to deal with adequately on my shift. Oh wow. Why do people do these things to each other. I have incredible emotional pain right now but I don't bring my issues into work. I feel it's as if I am his punching bag verbally and it's almost become physical. I refuse now after the recent episode with him shaking a fist at me, to get close to him at all. I understand he has some family issues but I'm wondering when the workplace might acknowledge his aggressive behaviour. So I do understand and it's never alright. It's so humiliating for you. Please if you want to talk. You really need support when you go through these horrible times. You need to know you're not alone. I think that behaviour on behalf of the bosses niece was apalling. Clicking your fingers to reprimand an employee in public.....so not on. Doesn't matter who she is. The bully usually hides the control freak who really doesn't have control. It's not easy but you need to set barriers. I've been meditating a lot and there was a session on this. It's true. The more you show everything is fine the more the unprofessional and despicable behaviour goes on. Sorry if I've said to much but reading of what you have endured pains me a lot. Take care.