I attended a cruise party in July 2023. I met a boy there and I liked him as soon as I saw him. We started talking to each other. We got each other’s mobile numbers and we added each other on social media. After then, we have been talking to each other and have been meeting up whenever we could.
So, two weeks ago, I was overexcited and I got a tattoo of his name on my arm but I did so without asking him. I wanted to surprise him the next time we met. He called me on Wednesday in the following week and made a plan to meet on the next day. I mentioned to him that I would show something to him when we would meet but he wanted to see it then only.
So, we did a video call on WhatsApp and I showed him my arm that had his name tattooed on. His reaction was showing that he was upset and he kept saying things like it was not good, it was only the beginning of the relationship and that I did not even ask him.
When we met the next day, he physically saw the tattoo on my arm and seemed very disappointed. When I was going, he came to drop me outside and said that he did not want to meet me until I get the tattoo removed. I could feel that he was very annoyed since he felt that his name was his own property and I should not have used it for the tattoo.
He also said things like that we are not that close and we have not been on a serious date as yet. On WhatsApp, we do not talk regularly and on call, we only speak for less than a minute. He felt that I was moving very fast and he was embarrassed because of me. He also said that in future, when my husband would also see the tattoo, he would not like it.
When I got home, I checked that he had blocked me on social media. I called him and he said that he does not feel comfortable having me added.
The next day, I did half day at work. Then, I went to the tattoo removal clinic and enquired about getting the tattoo removed. They said that this will require multiple sessions and can take up to a year to do so. Each session has individual pricing which makes it a very expensive treatment.
In the evening on that day, I went to the same tattoo parlour and asked them to do a cover up on my tattoo. They said that it was strongly recommended not to do it during the healing period. They said it is requested to wait 3 weeks before doing so. They even showed me pictures of scarred tattoos which were very unattractive. I left the parlour as I decided to wait. On Sunday, I booked the tattoo cover up appointment which was 3 weeks from when I first got the tattoo.
I called my boyfriend on Monday in the next week. I informed him about my appointment as I could not do anything during the healing period. I was sad as all the charm and enthusiasm was not in our relationship anymore.
I am missing him a lot. How can I mend my relationship with him after getting the cover up done?
