Hey @PeppyPatti took a bee-line to your dating dilemma thread. I know you care about your ex husband. Cutting off past relationship contacts stops the ambiguity though.
My friends son worked on an oil rig off the coast of Brazil and was pulling in lots of money. He ended up getting hooked up with a gold digger. He married her and she ended up spending hundreds of thousands of dollars of his money.
Admittedly in my own life I tried saving my own brother from himself but realised he just had to make his own way through life. I realised doing things for others takes away their self autonomy. What I have learnt is we can't go in there trying to save people from themselves they have to learn their own life lessons. So these days I just let life unfold as it does for these people
Theres not much you can do except be a witness to what is occurring as much as you love and want to protect your ex.
If he cannot manage his money he should be really with State Trustees for them to act as a guardian of his finances. I had a fb friend who was a hoarder and could not budget. In the end he had no food to eat or buy his meds with so case management put him on income management with State Trustees. It was the best thing that could have happened to him.
