Wait what did I come into this thread for again? Oh yeah, ADHD!

[ElevatedEyeSpic]

Currently going through a massive rejection sensitivity episode and have no idea what to do. I'm very sad.

[Jynx]

Hey @ElevatedEyeSpic I'm sorry to hear it. RSD is super rough, and can be super isolating as well. If you are up for it, you could tell us a little about what you're going through and maybe we can help you work through it a bit. What do you reckon? 

[ElevatedEyeSpic]

I just lost a friend. I violated a boundary because of my RSD and dont know how to live with myself. Its so hard to control and I dont know how to control my emotions. All I did was try to be supportive but the boundary was set very suddenly and harshly and I dont react well to stuff like that. So I still messaged him. Now I am suffering for it. He called me an emotionally abusive and manipulative person. Nobody else thinks this of me but this has completely shattered me. Idk what to do.

[Melbcoffeesnob]

Hey there @ElevatedEyeSpic 

I wanted to take a moment to send some positive energy your way. Sounds like you really care about your friend and I'm sorry things aren't going your way right now.

I can't help but feel inspired by your courage and determination to navigate the challenging journey of RSD. You are not alone in this, and your presence in this forum is a testament to your strength.

In terms of losing a friend perhaps give it time as sometimes a break can really help clear the air for both parties and to help see things from a different perspective. 

I know that sometimes it feels like the world is against us, that the storm will never pass, but remember, storms do subside, and the sun does shine again.

It's during the toughest times that we discover our resilience and inner strength and even stronger friendships can come from this. 

Your willingness to seek support and share your experiences here is a powerful step in the right direction.

You've got this, and we're here for you every step of the way.

With warm regards and unwavering support,

Coffee Snob

[ElevatedEyeSpic]

Thanks Coffee Snob.

It is really hard. I can’t help but feel he is right about me, and I am an emotionally abusive and manipulative person. Noone else I’ve spoken too thinks that is a fair thing to say, but maybe he is right and saw through me.

I cant stand this.

[ArraDreaming]

What’s rsd

[Jynx]

@ElevatedEyeSpic abusive and manipulative people don't spend hours agonising over whether or not they're abusive and manipulative. It is possible that he was projecting onto you. If your actions, even though they may have pushed a boundary (which, by the way, sudden/unexpected boundaries are also possible signs of emotional abuse. Not saying it's 100% that, but someone changing the rules on a dime, and then giving no grace or time for you to adjust just seems a little suss in my eyes) were ones of good intent, which they were, then you don't deserve to be punished for that. 

I hope you can do something to remind yourself that you are a good person, and not deserving of being told something so clearly untrue. Be gentle w yourself hun, and we're here for ya if you need 💜

[ElevatedEyeSpic]

Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria

[Jynx]

@ArraDreaming Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria - read about it here 😉

@ElevatedEyeSpic just a tip, if you want another member to be notified when you've replied, you can tag them using the @ symbol and typing/choosing their name. 

[ElevatedEyeSpic]

Thank you very much. It was very sudden and very brutal, and he had never communicated his feelings to me. I was a good friend, just made a few mistakes when he started talking to my girlfriend. Neither of them told me, which was completely accidental. I dont blame either of them it just rubbed me the wrong way because Ive been cheated on in the past. After that he drew away until within the space of an hour he first said he couldnt lose me, then said he didnt want to talk for a while, and then called me emotionally manipulative and abusive. It was awful. Very sudden. He didnt give me a chance to talk it out or explain or anything. In that time all I did was say stuff like alright man, and the only questioning I did was can I ask why. It definitely felt like manipulation.