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[lostNclueless]

Hi!

New to the site. Hopeful that talking to people who understand what I am dealing with will help me. 

I have Borderline Personality Disorder presenting as Anxiety/ Panic with traits of OCD, PTSD and most recently “ADHD” (that one I’m sceptical about as it’s very in vogue right now. :face_with_rolling_eyes:) 

I had a really good run of being well for about four years but lately it feels like my entire life has imploded. 

when I am not dys regulated I enjoy craft, bird watching, walking in nature. Love all things Disney, Marvel or Period Drama. 

Ive been having a really really hard time in every aspect of my life and I’m just want to be well, I just want to get back to the happy bubbly person I used to be. 

I came across this site while trying to track down a DBT support group. Hopefully this helps 

[tyme]

Welcome @lostNclueless ,

Thank you for sharing a little about yourself.

I hear how hard things are for you right now. At the same time, it's incredible to read about the things that really drive you.

I have first-hand experience of BPD, and it took me many years to jump on the bandwagon of recovery.

I have to say, the most helpful therapy for me was MBT. It seemed to have long lasting effects, even though it didn't feel very effective when going through it. Elements of DBT and ACT were also helpful.

I cannot emphasise the power of peer support. When I was acutely unwell, I was introduced to a peer worker while in hospital. We continued to meet up after my discharge as part of my outreach community support. Just being able to share and hear experiences was enough to grant me the hope and energy to continue. 

This was why I joined these forums also. I found my biggest growth in the area of peer support.

What supports do you have around you @lostNclueless ?

[WellnessLens]

Thank you! Sorry it took so long to reply. It's been a rough couple of months. x

[Allerziet2011]

I'm Allerziet2011 [name removed my moderator],

I have been with my husband for nearly 20 years and married for 10 of that time. He announced 2 weeks ago that he feels that we should separate. That our lives are taking different directions. There's alot more to it than that but I wouldn't want to make this extra long.

I have anxiety and depression plus hypersomnia. Which up till 2 weeks ago was well managed. Now I'm struggling to see a positive in this.

I would really like to chat with anyone who is going through this or has just to get emotional support. 

Thanks

[Ru-bee]

Welcome @Allerziet2011 

What an incredibly difficult time you must be having. It sounds as though this separation may have caught you by surprise?

While I don't have any lived experience of this myself I wanted to let you know that we're all here for you through this, you're not alone 

[Jaila]

Hi, and Welcome, @Allerziet2011 .

I am so sorry you are going thru this.  I can truly relate to what you are feeling and experiencing, for I too am going thru the very same situation.

My hubby and I were together 22 years when I discovered I had been replaced.  The night before we were talking about our future together, what we wanted to do, where we wanted to go, what we planned on doing to our home.  The next day when confronted, I was told that he was ending our relationship.

I was in shock, heart broken, my soul shattered into a million pieces.  I was angry, confused, depressed… and if that weren’t bad enough, my mum was diagnosed with cancer the following week and the week after that she passed away…. All while being unemployed as I was planning a career change and was taking time off to switch industries.

It’s been almost a year now and my ex and I still share the same house, but live separate lives as neither of us can afford to leave.  He’s unemployed and I cannot afford rent on my income.

Talk about feeling used and abused!

Depression has ruled my life until recently when I started seeing a psychologist.  I could not dig myself out of my own misery.  With few friends, and my family having disowned me years ago, I had no support network of any sort and was and still do have difficulty seeing anything positive in my life now at my age.  Heavens knows I’m trying… I guess one step at a time.  At least I’m no longer suicidal and though I still don’t have a positive outlook again, I know I will eventually come out the other side.