13-03-2025 08:52 PM
13-03-2025 08:52 PM
@Meowmy hugs and hugs Meowmy life is tough sweetheartxx
14-03-2025 02:04 AM - edited 14-03-2025 02:46 AM
14-03-2025 02:04 AM - edited 14-03-2025 02:46 AM
Dear @Former-Member
You have helped me work something out which has made me feel a load that has been hanging on my neck for many years.
"I saw my son and he practically ripped me apart. And I have to respect that. I have to hold his pain, but it's so unfinished—he just wants to run away from me. And I'm talking for years…
I feel like… I have a space to express a different kind of hope. A hope that maybe, just maybe, the path to healing is still open for him, and for us.
that neurologist I read ::::::::: Dr James zDoty, His insights have given me a new perspective.
Dr. Doty's work shows how you can rewire the brain with compassion and empathy. . I've been listening to his guided meditations, and they've brought me a sense of peace and understanding
And how positive affirmations and enforcing compassion and empathy can make the brain work better. . And I find myself hoping that my son, in his own time, might discover the same.
I believe that by learning to cultivate compassion, both for himself and for others, he might find a way to soothe the pain that drives him to push me away.
And by developing empathy, he might begin to understand not only his own suffering, but also the pain that others carry. I believe that even if he does not want to have a relationship with me, that he can heal himself. I hope that he can learn to be compassionate with himself. He's certainly not compassionate with me. He also broke up with his partner.
So I'm also guessing that I'm not getting what I want which is having a close relationship with my sons.
14-03-2025 05:07 AM - edited 14-03-2025 05:19 AM
14-03-2025 05:07 AM - edited 14-03-2025 05:19 AM
@TAB @PeppyPatti @StuF @Meowmy @Bill16 @Former-Member @Oaktree @Appleblossom @saturnzoon @Glisten good morning everyone! happy friday love peaxx
14-03-2025 07:22 AM
14-03-2025 07:22 AM
Good morning @greenpea @TAB @Meowmy @Bill16 @Glisten @PeppyPatti @Former-Member @Oaktree @Appleblossom @saturnzoon and all
Happy Friday 🙂
14-03-2025 07:36 AM
14-03-2025 07:36 AM
jeez yr up early @StuF work today ?
Good Morning to you and @greenpea @PeppyPatti @Meowmy @Bill16 @saturnzoon @Oaktree @ENKELI @Glisten and anyone else around 😊
14-03-2025 07:41 AM
14-03-2025 07:49 AM
14-03-2025 07:49 AM
@PeppyPatti sometimes being a parent we have to step back, let them mess up, let them work things out for themselves and just trust and hope that they can get through whatever they are going through. It's not easy, it's your own flesh and blood that you have to let go in order to protect ourselves.
I've had to do the same with one of my kids and it's horrible, but at the end of the day it was doing more damage to me than it was good. Do I hate them, no, I love them more than words can express but the next step in their lives is for them to work out, I've done all I can.
I'm glad you have found guided meditations to listen to and that it's helping you, you deserve peace.
I hope that in time he can heal himself and that once he does that, then just maybe he can heal the relationship between you and him. There's always hope so long as the sun shines during the day and the stars twinkle at night.
Sending you lots of love and hugs, day by day sweet ❤️
14-03-2025 07:52 AM - edited 14-03-2025 08:02 AM
14-03-2025 07:52 AM - edited 14-03-2025 08:02 AM
14-03-2025 07:53 AM
14-03-2025 07:53 AM
Morning @greenpea. Hope you have a lovely day 😊
14-03-2025 07:54 AM
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