Dear @Former-Member
You have helped me work something out which has made me feel a load that has been hanging on my neck for many years.
"I saw my son and he practically ripped me apart. And I have to respect that. I have to hold his pain, but it's so unfinished—he just wants to run away from me. And I'm talking for years…
I feel like… I have a space to express a different kind of hope. A hope that maybe, just maybe, the path to healing is still open for him, and for us.
that neurologist I read ::::::::: Dr James zDoty, His insights have given me a new perspective.
Dr. Doty's work shows how you can rewire the brain with compassion and empathy. . I've been listening to his guided meditations, and they've brought me a sense of peace and understanding
And how positive affirmations and enforcing compassion and empathy can make the brain work better. . And I find myself hoping that my son, in his own time, might discover the same.
I believe that by learning to cultivate compassion, both for himself and for others, he might find a way to soothe the pain that drives him to push me away.
And by developing empathy, he might begin to understand not only his own suffering, but also the pain that others carry. I believe that even if he does not want to have a relationship with me, that he can heal himself. I hope that he can learn to be compassionate with himself. He's certainly not compassionate with me. He also broke up with his partner.
So I'm also guessing that I'm not getting what I want which is having a close relationship with my sons.
