Sorry that happened @TABI hope it not trick you into thinking I was her.
My ex offered to plant passionfruit in our backyard, but it wasnt with love .. he was cynical & calculating. He probably projected it onto me and I was totally burnt out. I tried to give him affection, family, sex therapy, art therapy ... but it was what it was.
After I left my marriage I took lots of cuttings from the garden and grew them in pots in a little flat with a tiny concrete yard. Then I carted them all ... like a bloomin mug .. to my new place .. I left him and the girls in the family home but we eventually sold and both bought widdle houses. I never wanted a BV in the burbs anyway.
I planted the cuttings daisies, pelargoniums, & bulbs etc out in my garden but eventually split & divided them out into my court. Bought the apple trees years after I separated. One neighbour said I was mad as I planted the 2nd one on council property. The plants I put in around it had grown up and it wasnt thriving there anyway .. so put it on my land last week ... I was so over all the ... who owns what .. and who takes responsibility for what .. at the moment the Melb Water & the Council are each waiting for the other to do some work .. hmmm .. maybe I have to phone them again ..
It feels like S**t being betrayed when we care .. you seem to be able to be very positive though ..
although there has been some unexpected contact from someone at hours they never used to contact at lol..anyhoo ..lots people in the world, and they aren't all my exes 
haha ..contact has died with most of them, I just have one care package to send to one and that's it ..ok one of the articles is a dvd they loved, very hard to find, I liked it too, so may copy it first, either that or throw the whole lot in the bin lol @Appleblossom
teej and I butted heads last nite. I felt like I was on receiving end this time.. sounds like it was saved up for me for one of my rants a week ago .... anyhoooo ..